My wife and I get in arguments (yes we argue, shocking) because she loves to create potential future scenarios and respond to them emotionally in the present. The ultimate “what if” scenarios that have the potential to ruin the day she is currently living. It frustrates me because the future doesn’t deserve that control over us.
The truth is, my wife is not alone in this behavior. I do it. You do it. We all do it.
We find ourselves living in a false future, behaving as if that thing that could happen, has already happened and now it has control over our emotional state. In the days leading up to the event we are consumed by the potential outcome that seems to be looming in the unknown shadows of tomorrow. If you just focused on today, and what you could control, you would find the actions today have a greater ability to impact the future than thinking about how bad things could be if it did happen.
Own today. Do everything you can in these 24 hours to achieve the goals you’ve set for yourself, and you’ll keep today’s emotions in check, focused on dealing with the present.